What I've learned in 1 1/2 years.

On the 16th, Levi and I celebrated our four year anniversary! I can't believe that we've been together for four whole years! It seems like ages. We seem like completely different people! I seriously can't believe how different we are now than when we got together - in ways both good and bad. Just all the stuff we went through... I can't believe that we made it through that. I love waking up next to him every day and being partners in everything.

Levi and I have been married for nearly 20 months, but I feel like as a couple, we've learned SO SO much. We have SO much more to learn, and I can't wait to learn it!
I have a lot of friends who will be getting married this year, an in honor of that I wanted to share the most important things that Levi and I have leaned through Christ during out marriage. We have SO SO SO much to learn still, but I'm thankful that we have a whole lifetime to learn it.


First off, make time for each other. When you have a long day at work or a long day with the kids, it's so hard to find the energy or time for each other. What we learned is to save a little bit of energy, save words, and designate time, even if it's just 15 minutes every night, to talk to each other.

Second, ask each other what makes them feel loved. I may want a hug, kiss, sweet gestures or for him to listen, but Levi wants me to be proud of him and tell him that, etc. What makes each person feel loved is SO different. Ask your partner/fiance/spouse what makes them feel loved! Don't just assume.

Third, PLAN A DATE NIGHT! Especially when you have kids and things are crazy at home, plan dates! Whether it be every week, every other week or whatever, plan for dates. It's so so good to just have a few hours away to just focus on each other!

Fourth, NEVER expect your girlfriend/boyfriend/fiance/spouse to know what you're thinking. They won't know what's behind every long sigh or slam of a cabinet door. You HAVE to tell them. If you're upset, tell them. If you want them to do something, say so! Your spouse cannot read your mind.